Recycle My Heart: A Valentine’s Day Prayer

It wouldn’t be fitting to leave you “postless” on St. Valentine’s Day.  I have ruminated about what to say today to the women who read this blog; women who have been hurt by spouses in ways that make them feel… less like a Valentine and more like a discarded newspaper.  Once upon a time, interesting, but today--old news. I remember feeling like that. Valentine’s Day was particularly difficult for me when I went through the painful rejection in my first marriage. (See It Happened to a Nice Christian Girl)  After all, the day is all about Continue Reading

Your Husband’s Using Internet P**n. What do you do?

You just found out your husband’s using internet p**n. What do you do? 1. Make sure he knows that you know he’s been using porn, and that it is completely unacceptable to you. Don’t accept a simple, “Sorry, it won’t happen again.” Instead, let him know that you consider his porn use to be serious enough to warrant action in addition to apology.    2. Insist on getting an internet filter/accountability device immediately.   I’d recommend any of the following: Triple X Watch http://x3watch.com/ Be Safe Online Continue Reading

It Happened to a Nice Christian Girl

Me: Raised in a Christian, healthy home with loving parents in a safe, vibrantly happy atmosphere. Him: Worldly wise and charming; a committed Christian, talented and smart. Us: A born-again couple ministering in a contemporary Christian band, writing and performing our own music, traveling the country while playing at churches, Christian coffee houses and concert events. Everything was in place, so how could it all fall apart? No warning signs; no red flags.  Years into our marriage, we’d just had our first child when he broke the news, Continue Reading

What “The Women” Has To Say To Women

I’ll admit feeling a little protective when I heard about a remake of The Women, the 1939 classic which is still one of my favorite movies. It was released the same year as The Wizard of Oz and Gone with the Wind, but Dorothy and Scarlett O’Hara had nothing on these ladies. Featuring the likes of Norma Shearer, Joan Crawford and Rosalind Russell, they’re a quick, catty and conniving bunch of man-grabbing, back-stabbing-with-a-smile friends who display everything great and monstrous about female bonding. Despite the title, it’s largely a movie Continue Reading