Your husband’s admitted he’s homosexual. What now?

The Faces Behind the Issues Here in California, we’re in the middle of a huge and heartbreaking controversy over Proposition 8, the marriage amendment that essentially banned same-sex marriage in this state.  Amidst all the political upheaval, people often forget the faces behind the issues: many of those faces belong to women who are trying to cope with the revelation that their husband is homosexual.  And though the Christian worldview on homosexuality differs from that of our culture, it does not necessarily grant immunity from the issue Continue Reading

Your Husband’s Using Internet P**n. What do you do?

You just found out your husband’s using internet p**n. What do you do? 1. Make sure he knows that you know he’s been using porn, and that it is completely unacceptable to you. Don’t accept a simple, “Sorry, it won’t happen again.” Instead, let him know that you consider his porn use to be serious enough to warrant action in addition to apology.    2. Insist on getting an internet filter/accountability device immediately.   I’d recommend any of the following: Triple X Watch http://x3watch.com/ Be Safe Online Continue Reading

PRAY. VOTE. LOVE.

After months of saturation from pundits extraordinaire, Saturday Night Live parodies, and YouTube videos, November 4th is upon us. At this moment of truth, what should a Christian do? It goes without saying—make sure you exercise your right to vote! But don’t leave it at that. There will be many challenges facing our nation and the church in America in the next few years. Complacency is one luxury we cannot afford, whether in the voting booth or the prayer closet.  So here’s a variation on the title of a popular book by Elizabeth Griffin, Continue Reading

Paris Hilton’s New BFF

I was in an allergy coma from the onset of the Santa Ana winds the other day, which would explain why I switched channels to watch Paris Hilton’s new show, My New BFF.  In it, young women were competing Project Runway style for the privilege of being Paris’ New Best Friend Forever.   Of course, Paris’ definition of Best Friend is different than most of ours.  Most of us assume there’s a certain mutuality that comes with friendship. But with Paris it’s a little one-sided.  In this show, friendship has definitely devolved into a shallow, Continue Reading

It Happened to a Nice Christian Girl

Me: Raised in a Christian, healthy home with loving parents in a safe, vibrantly happy atmosphere. Him: Worldly wise and charming; a committed Christian, talented and smart. Us: A born-again couple ministering in a contemporary Christian band, writing and performing our own music, traveling the country while playing at churches, Christian coffee houses and concert events. Everything was in place, so how could it all fall apart? No warning signs; no red flags.  Years into our marriage, we’d just had our first child when he broke the news, Continue Reading