12-Week Group Begins August 25th
I am very excited to announce our first WifeBoat Online Support Group! This group is in response to many women who are struggling in marriages impacted by their husband’s sexual sin and who feel the need for ongoing support.
Many of you have told me through posts and emails how much it would mean to you to connect with other women and this online support group is the natural outgrowth of what I have been trying to provide through WifeBoat.
So let me tell you a little about the format and what we’ve got planned:
The first session will give us a chance to share our stories and talk about the goals of the group. Each of the following meetings will start with a short teaching on an aspect of recovery that is relevant to you. I’ve also got a special guest facilitator planned for one of our sessions.
After the teaching, each person will have a chance to share their thoughts, struggles and victories in a mutually agreed upon safe and confidential environment.
Each group meeting is 2 hours and meets on Tuesdays, from 4:00 to 6:00pm PST.
The twelve weeks will provide an opportunity for wives to journey together towards better understanding and insight into their situations, receive the comfort of others who know what they’re going through, and to be better equipped and strengthened for their own unique challenges.
If you would like register, please check the banner ad on this website for more information. I’m looking forward to our group and hope to talk with you soon. -R
My wife had an affair now I am struggling with what steps to take, I know this forum is for women, and I was wondering if you know of any groups that help men through this horrific event , I sympathize with what you women are going through and wish you all the best. If you know of any where I can turn please let me know. It would be greatly appreciated
Renee, would be interested to know when your next group is starting. My husband admitted having relationships with other men during our marriage.
Brianna,
From what you mentioned, when you and your husband talked about this last year and he promised things would change, did you also get a clear plan from him on what he would do to correct things? By that I mean getting into accountability relationship with someone, getting into a recovery group or counseling with your pastor or a counselor, etc. and keeping in regular communication with you about it. The other things that would factor into this is your setting and communcating what your boundaries are–that is, what you will and will not accept. Even with all those things in place and a clear plan, things can get bumpy. So I would say, it’s important to evaluate where you are right now, what your expections and needs are for the future and determine how you will communicate them to your husband. If you haven’t had anhyone to talk to about this, I would recommend talkaing to your pastor or a good Christian counselor, and/or get into a support group. Our current support group is closed, and a new one won’t be opening for 12 weeks to so, but I do Individual Support with women who find themselves in betweeng groups and in need of help and who cannnot find one in thier area. Please check the information on this webiste under Support Groups, and feel free to contact me with any questions you may have.
I was wondering if I could talk to someone about my problem. On may 8th this year it will be a year since my husband slept with another woman. He told me about three weeks later after telling a week or so before that Iwas crazy and nothing was going on. He admitted it after a confrontation with her bf, he swears there has been no incidents before or since.Ii have a lingering felling that has been popping up lately and I dont know what that means. NEED HELP. I decided to forgive him for the sake of the children and with the promise of change. We have been on a bumpy trail since as his promises were once again broken. Wanting to know if i made a smart move.
Marty:
Thanks for the encouragement about the group. Our first two groups ended just before the holidays and we are starting up again on January 19th and 21st. They were such a blessing, and I absolutely loved the women who participated. For more information on the schedule and content, please go toWifeBoat Support Groups.
Actually, the groups are well suited for a pastor’s wife in her unique position, as they are online and in a confidential in a non-judgemental setting. The curriculum that I’ve written is Biblically based and applies to all Christian women facing their husband’s adultery, porn use, or any other sexual sin, and gives each women a time to share and get support from other group members. It is a safe place that embraces their values, and that I think, is the primary need a pastor’s wife would have.
At this time, I don’t know of a specific pastor’s wives group that I can refer you to. But I’m sure the WifeBoat group would fit the need. Please let me know if you have any other questions.-R
It looks like you are doing a good thing through this support group. I would like to know if you are aware of any support groups for women that were married to pastors that committed adultery.
Tonya,
I’m glad you found us here at WifeBoat and that we can of support and help to you. I hope you have someone you can talk to about this–although I know that many women do not feel safe discussing such a personal and devesating thing with people they know for fear of how it will affect thier relationships in their community.
That said though, perhaps you can talk to your pastor or the women’s ministry director at your church. I would think that they would be able to support you and keep what you tell them confidential. There is also the option of contacting a local professional Christian counselor as well.
Since you commented on the post announcing the WifeBoat Online Suport Group, I don’t think I’m wrong in assuming you are interested in that. Our current groups are closed, and we will be taking a holiday break. But our next round of groups will be starting mid-January. I will post an announcement on this blog, as well as sending out emails. Please let me know if you are interested, and I’ll be sure to get back to you. I’ll praying for you, Tonya, and I know the women who read and contribute to this blog will as well. Take good care of yourself. -R
I need help–my husband is a porn addict and I have been with him for 29 years and I am confused!!!!!
I’ve been looking for a support group for sometime now, glad I stumbled across this website.
I am very glad you are doing this. I just tweeted it at @ExodusIntl and posted it to facebook! I pray all goes well and the Lord blesses the group mightily.