Some of you have probably noticed I haven’t posted in awhile. I’ve had every intention of whipping out my inspiration and astounding you all with my brilliance and insight. But my right brain would have none of it. Can anyone relate to this? The pent up emotion, the sadness, the joy—the exasperation! The brain-freeze. The sudden urge for chocolate. It's a Jumble Out There I may be, like many of you, suffering from information overload. I have Face Book, I get text messages. Internet and cable news outlets beckon me to read the latest Continue Reading
Archives for 2012
May 16, 2012 By
His Emotional Ambivalence, Squared
One of the things that I find comes up in coversations with wives over and over again is the issue of a husband's ambivalence towards his recovery. On the one hand they seem to say, "Yes, I'm sorry for what I've done, and I don't like the consequences of it." and on the other side, their actions (or lack thereof) seem to say, "But I don't want to give it up--it feels too good, it's become too important to me". The wife finds herself in an excruciating state of frustration. While he seems to be giving lip-service to what he knows to be right, Continue Reading
April 6, 2012 By
Tears of Rememberance on Good Friday
Today is the day we remember, as Jesus asked us to do when we celebrate our communion with Him. In celebrating the last supper He and His disciples would share together before his death on the cross He said, "Do this in rememberance of Me" as He broke the bread. (Luke 22:19) This Good Friday, we remember once again. I was very moved my husband's post today, Tears of Rememberance on Good Friday. It made me thoughtful about how I remember - do I accompany my tears with a change of heart and a move to action? Do I believe that "all things are Continue Reading
April 3, 2012 By
Three Obstacles to True Forgiveness
For a wife who is dealing with her husband’s sexual sin, part of the process of forgiveness includes coming to an understanding of what she has truly lost by the betrayal, and then beginning to release the debt of the offense against her. If she doesn’t go through this process, I’m not sure she can truly say “from her heart” she has truly forgiven. (Matthew 18:32-35) But forgiveness can be a challenge because the hurt may still resonate, and the emotions and fears combine to add confusion as to what true forgiveness looks like. Here are Continue Reading
February 14, 2012 By
Recycle My Heart: A Valentine’s Day Prayer
It wouldn’t be fitting to leave you “postless” on St. Valentine’s Day. I have ruminated about what to say today to the women who read this blog; women who have been hurt by spouses in ways that make them feel… less like a Valentine and more like a discarded newspaper. Once upon a time, interesting, but today--old news. I remember feeling like that. Valentine’s Day was particularly difficult for me when I went through the painful rejection in my first marriage. (See It Happened to a Nice Christian Girl) After all, the day is all about Continue Reading
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